Sara Dueck - Writer & Educator
Sara Dueck (she/her) is a queer, feminist, usually nervous, over-educated millennial with a bachelor’s degree in English Literature and a Master’s degree in Medieval Studies. Sara grew up in a small town in Southern Alberta, Canada - deep in the heart of right-wing territory. Her Mennonite family was so conservative, in fact, that her grandparents thought dancing was a sin. We’re talking some Footloose level shit here.
As a kid, was taught to believe in this hyper-conservative ideology. Homosexuality was bad, sex before marriage was bad, masturbation was bad, porn was definitely bad - and suffice it to say, it’s easy to vow abstinence until marriage when you haven’t yet hit puberty.
But as a teenager, things changed. One of Sara's best friends came out to her. Her entire belief system collided with someone she loved. There was nothing bad about him—so she broke out of her conservative cocoon as a raging, flaming liberal. Sara spent years growing and changing, learning new lessons and unlearning old ones. Slowly, she learned to acknowledge her bisexuality, and even more slowly, she learned to love and embrace her queer identity. And slowly, she's been chipping away at all the shame that encased her understanding of sex. She is learning that her sexuality is good and healthy and worthy of celebration.
Now sex is all she wants to talk about: with her teenaged sister, her partner, friends, coworkers, and anyone who will listen. she wants to travel back in time and talk about it with my confused, angry, horny adolescent self. She wants to talk about it with teens who are curious or unsure or nervous or confident. She wants to talk about it with everybody because everybody deserves to know that their sexuality is important. And that’s why she's here. When Sara isn't writing for Harlot, you can find her on her own educational site: SEX and THE REST or doing freelance work for various clients.