Q&A: Sex on the DL
I'm thinking about having sex with my boyfriend, but I want to get on birth control first. I don't want to have to tell my parents. Where can I go to get some without them knowing?
Sex on the DL
Dear Sex on the DL,
First things first: applause for being proactive in your own reproductive wellbeing! You have taken a very important step in being a responsible young adult.
I can understand not wanting your parents to know that you are sexually active or on birth control, but I would urge you to talk to a trusted adult about your decision (a teacher, a cool aunt, or a medical professional). With that being said, I highly recommend you visit your local Planned Parenthood and speak with them about an affordable and accessible method of birth control that is right for you. Good luck!
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